I regularly contemplate impermanence and non-attachment. They are two of my favorite spiritual concepts.
Life is like a classroom with only one course, letting go. Where every day is a school day, and when school is out, it’s out for good.
Every day we have to let go of all kinds of stuff, big and small.
There is someone in my life for whom I care a great deal. Recently I learned that it’s possible I will rarely if ever see him again. Though it’s so hard to know why some people show up in our lives and immediately become important, he is one of those people for me. We have an amazing connection that actually grows stronger with fewer words. It’s one of the most lovely relationships I’ve ever been a part of.
So I’m facing what could be perceived as a huge loss. And I’ll be truthful, the news hit me pretty hard. I was at my job doing semi-complicated tax work when I found out, and it made me cry…at my job…ugh.
Since then I have come to give thanks for the changing nature of this relationship and the beautiful ways it has developed over time. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been very genuine, open, and loving. I welcome whatever is next.
It was as my mind and heart began to let go of this person I love that I realized that most of my strength and flexibility comes from being a mom. In no other relationship are we so entwined with another person with whom we do not get to live our entire lives. As mothers we are asked to care about another person as much or more than we care about ourselves and to put their needs before our own. And we do it willingly, out of pure love. And also out of pure love, when it comes time for independence, we let go, ever so gently.
Done properly, there is no more beautiful relationship than the one between a mother and child.
Kids don’t come into the world to learn, they are here to teach us. They are here to show us who we really are and what we are capable of. They help us become more enlightened.
I will never regret having children. They have softened my spirit and brought out the most beautiful parts of my personality for the benefit of the entire universe.
I’m so grateful.